THINGS PEOPLE DO FOR LOVE.

Cupid is a bitch.

They say love is a drug, others say love is a disease incurable not by any remedy, others say its a plague that torments the human mind and that makes life unbearable at times. I know for sure that loving women for instance is not a walk in the park. The only woman you are certain that you will always love without regrets is probably your mum, or maybe a sister, all other relationships are always tense and consume a lot of energy... As far as I'm concerned though, I believe love is a beautiful thing, especially if you are in it with the right person. It gives one a reason to look forward to another day, to live life big and to fall in love over and over again. Sounds really easy by word of mouth, certainly not easy by actions, and don't laugh when somebody tells you they gave up on love. Cupid is a bitch who at times just doesn't think before she uses those arrows. (By the way, i am not sure if cupid is a she, but i tend to think she is.  

Most people have had to go through hard times, torture and suffering fighting for the 'apples of their eyes'. Sad enough, some of us always always tend to have this gross and at times unappreciative attitude to those that do all they can for the love they have for us. Take Lord Maurice Egerton of Tatton for example. A man who ended up childless, breaking the lineage of a prominent dynasty and who ended up hating women so much that he warned to shoot on sight any woman who trespasses his property, all these a repulse of a heart broken by the most heartless of women.

Lord Egerton Castle

Lord Egerton was a man in love, and when his fiancee visited him from the U.K and found him in a rather unrepresentable but not shambled house, she expressed her dissatisfaction. He embarked on a love ordained mission, to impress his love. And he did so in a manner not imaginable, he built a castle like no other seen in the world, let alone Kenya or England. Grandeur was the intent, grandeur was the result. In addition to that, he held the biggest pre-colonial party ever seen in Kenya. (Surely, not anything like those small things where you buy just one bottle of liquor amongst a bunch of guzzlers.) He built the castle out of love, the love he had for this woman. The castle, by the way, if any of you dont know, still stands today a few kilometres from Nakuru town.

Now here is the sad part of a well constructed story of love and adoration; when the fiancee came back from England, she was more disgusted than not from this gesture. The moment she saw it, she termed it "a museum and a monument of vanity" and went ahead to marry another man in the U.K. Lord Egerton was noble enough to let it go. I wonder if any other man would had let her live in peace. That was the decision of a woman who loved another man and turned down the man who certainly loved her more. At times we never seem to realise that we are settling for less when we probably had the best. The many times we rush because the grass on the other side is looking greener leads us to making mistakes and end up living with the scars.

That's how heartless those we give our all can be. But the good thing about it all is that life never really revolves round an individual. My pal once told me that the wrong ones we fall for prepare us for the right ones and those ones that are actually meant for us. Love, I have always said, is worth fighting for, but if you give 100 % and get anything less in return, then its never worth sitting through it again.

Another great story of real love is certainly that of Ewart Grogan. To start off, Grogan was an irresponsible young man who really led a carefree life.  He was expelled from both school and university, that just goes to show the kind of character he was. But what he did for his love Gertrude was a sign of sheer dedication and hard work. After wanting her hand in marriage but hindered by her father, he promised to prove that he could be serious at will, and he proved this by walking from Cape-town all the way to Cairo, a journey that took him two years and that saw him traverse a dangerous terrain. He was accosted by wild-animals, cannibals and headhunters. But this was nothing as compared to the love he had for Gertrude. Fortunately, unlike Lord Egerton's experience, everything turned out great for Ewart Grogan who went ahead to marry his love. Now that was real love that was worth fighting for. Dedication adds the twinkle in mere love.

Recently, a man got his child-maker chopped off by his fiancee. The reason? She would never want him to have relations with another woman. That's how love can induce the most irrational of thoughts. Likewise, it shows how much we as human-beings would be willing to fight for our love. Being hurt by the one you love is always a risk, but once it happens, always listen to your heart before you take them back or let them go.

Love shouldn't be a tangle of hurt and pain. Yes, we all have to go through that once in a while, but love should not be based on that. There should be ups and downs, not downs and downs. Love should bear more good time than gloomy ones. Its always had to let go once you love, but its always unwise to hold on to someone who does not reciprocate your love. Everyone needs somebody that will make them feel at peace and be happy in it. The moment u feel your bottling in too much, its always a sign to let go.

The things we do for love are not always the things we are meant to do for love. Loving others means we begin by loving ourselves. If you are not feeling in love with yourself, then you don't deserve to be in love with that person. Say, for instance he/she quarrels you, and they making you hate being you, then they aren't treating you good, and if it goes on for a while, there comes a time where you just let go, heal your heart slowly and God above will send you someone who is worth loving and dying for. Letting go doesnt always mean your not strong enough, letting go means your also 'strong enough to let go'. Things we do for love should not be done in the blindness of the love itself.  As much as love is great, we can always survive without it, similarly, we can always fight to find it in someone else other than fight to hang on with the wrong person. The things we do for love should be things out of the love for happiness, and joy, not things camouflaged by hurt, torture and pain. If they love you back, they are worth dying for, if they ain't, pick up your all and go, and remember to dust your feet at their doorsteps, so they can always remember that they once had you, the best, and they lost you. Thats how to do it for love.

This one is dedicated to all those lovely ladies that are going through a hard time. You know yourselves. Everything's gon be alright...

(Picks the phone to text...) Sigh... The things we do for love......